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Would u be 100% certain she would never flirt with ur new hot date or always stand up for u if someone else was putting u down?Is your bestie completely in your corner or secretly using you to boost her ego or image?
If u can say 'yes' w/o evn pausing,ur super lucky.
But if u cant say with confidence tat ur friend is on ur side 24/7,then u might have two-faced bestie.
Here's how to recognise a close girlfriend who doesnt always have ur interests at heart.
The Self-made Style Guru
She says::
"You would look great in my black dress"
"It's such a shame u dont wear clothes that are more adventorous/colorful/figure hugging."
""I wish i could give u a complete make over,styling ur clothes,hair & make-up"
The Problem::
-this bestie is subtly putting u down.she's saying out loud & clear she had better taste & way more fashionable and ur so clueless n dont know how to look hip/attractive.
How to deal::
If u feel her style really do make u look better then say,
"Thanks for those ideas,i've taken some on board."
Then add,
"but now i'm also developing a real sense of how i would like to look and i want to play around with my appearance and find out what i like most."
The Spiller
She says::
"I'm so sorry,i didnt mean to tell everyone ur secret,but i thought they already knew"
"I feel so terrible bcz i let ur secret slip out before i could stop myself"
"If i tell u dz secret i just heard will u promise that it will stay btween u n me?"
The problem::
When she knows something that everyone else doesnt,she itches to tell at least a couple of people bcz it makes her feel important. if she's spilled something u told her a couple of times before,make it a rule taht u dun tell her anythng. And just bcz u havent heard bout her spilling ur secrets,dont presume she cn be trusted.
How to deal::
Share an unimportant bit of information with her then tell her it's a secret.check in with some other friends a week or two later to see if ur confidence has been blown.
If u do weaken & share something she then tells evryone,confront her.make it clear u hve lost respect & trust.if she apologises,accept it but keep her out of d loop.
The Self-promoter
She says::
"i brought those two together as a happy couple & look how happy they are"
"my friends all call me the social centre of d group,bcz i know so many people"
I know she wouldnt have survived dat break-up w/o me-I was like her personal counsellor"
The problem::
Brag.Brag.Brag.
your friend is d ultimate spin-doctor,she tries to take credit for just bout evrythng good that happens. it's extremely annoying bcz she is lke a leech who suckers on to ur triumphs,using u to make herself look good.
How to deal::
call on her.say very loudly,"yes i think she should stand up to take a bow bcz i got d job/hot date-it's incredible how she makes all d good thngs in d world happen"
The Outdoer
She says::
"you look gorgeous in dat dress,i'll have to change or i'll feel under-dressed"
"i've just signed up to d gym too-ur new fit body made me feel depressed bout myself."
"i've had so many invitations diz weekend i just cant work out which thing to go to or whether i should try to fit them all in!"
The problem::
ur bestie is engaged in a constant game of one-upmanship.it makes u feel self-conscious bout evrythng u do & u often wish u could tell her to get over it.when she copies ur haircut or tries to prove she's a better dancer,u feel lke it looks as if ur engaged in competing with her.
How to deal::
buy ur friend a self-help book.meet up for coffee and give it to her saying u think it cn help boost her self-esteem.
explain u've noticed dat she is constantly doing things to compete with u.and datu noe this urge is driven by a fear dat she's not good enough.
The Serial Flirt
She says::
"That guy is so hot-it's a shame u're dating him or i'd snap him up in a nano-second."
"i'm sorry-i didnt intend to steal dat guy's intention from u"
"did u see d way that guy looked at me-i;m sure he thinks i'm hot"
The problem::
she thinks she is d ultimate guy-magnet.
not only she does often to hijack d attention of evry single guy u meet, but she puts d same act on evry guy u date.
this cn mke u feel totally insecure & invisible in their presence.
How to deal::
take some pics or footage on ur cell phone when she's in full attention-grabbing flight so u have proof.
then get all d girls in d group together or do a "tough love" session where u say unless she changes her ways or u wont hangout anymore"
mode:: demam.pening.sakit tekak.sema2.gigil2.
p/s:: where are u when i need u the most?? :|
"my friends all call me the social centre of d group,bcz i know so many people"
I know she wouldnt have survived dat break-up w/o me-I was like her personal counsellor"
The problem::
Brag.Brag.Brag.
your friend is d ultimate spin-doctor,she tries to take credit for just bout evrythng good that happens. it's extremely annoying bcz she is lke a leech who suckers on to ur triumphs,using u to make herself look good.
How to deal::
call on her.say very loudly,"yes i think she should stand up to take a bow bcz i got d job/hot date-it's incredible how she makes all d good thngs in d world happen"
The Outdoer
She says::
"you look gorgeous in dat dress,i'll have to change or i'll feel under-dressed"
"i've just signed up to d gym too-ur new fit body made me feel depressed bout myself."
"i've had so many invitations diz weekend i just cant work out which thing to go to or whether i should try to fit them all in!"
The problem::
ur bestie is engaged in a constant game of one-upmanship.it makes u feel self-conscious bout evrythng u do & u often wish u could tell her to get over it.when she copies ur haircut or tries to prove she's a better dancer,u feel lke it looks as if ur engaged in competing with her.
How to deal::
buy ur friend a self-help book.meet up for coffee and give it to her saying u think it cn help boost her self-esteem.
explain u've noticed dat she is constantly doing things to compete with u.and datu noe this urge is driven by a fear dat she's not good enough.
The Serial Flirt
She says::
"That guy is so hot-it's a shame u're dating him or i'd snap him up in a nano-second."
"i'm sorry-i didnt intend to steal dat guy's intention from u"
"did u see d way that guy looked at me-i;m sure he thinks i'm hot"
The problem::
she thinks she is d ultimate guy-magnet.
not only she does often to hijack d attention of evry single guy u meet, but she puts d same act on evry guy u date.
this cn mke u feel totally insecure & invisible in their presence.
How to deal::
take some pics or footage on ur cell phone when she's in full attention-grabbing flight so u have proof.
then get all d girls in d group together or do a "tough love" session where u say unless she changes her ways or u wont hangout anymore"
mode:: demam.pening.sakit tekak.sema2.gigil2.
p/s:: where are u when i need u the most?? :|
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